Anyone know any place I can watch The Walking Dean on my iPhone?
NO STOP IT RIGHT NOW I WILL NOT BE PUNISHED FOR FUCKING AUTOCORRECT
god why are people feeling the need to turn the ashburton shooting into a political debate like i hate the national government as much as the next person but they don’t have blood on their hands the only person with blood on their hands is the dude who fucking walked into winz with a shotgun stop trying to condone his actions by blaming the government g o d
yea i literally just saw the headlines ‘john tully: a homeless mans cry for help’. fuck that.
It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.
It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.
But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it."
If you’ve cut a negative person from your life, whether they were abusive or just someone who wasn’t a positive influence on you, at NO POINT in your healing are you required to let that person BACK into your life.
Your healing should never be contingent on you bringing people who have harmed you back into your space. Your healing does not require you to give these people a second chance to harm you.